Gen 37:3 Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his children, because he was the son of his old age: and he made him a coat of many colours.
Gen 37:4 And when his brethren saw that their father loved him more than all his brethren, they hated him, and could not speak peaceably unto him.
Playing favorites doesn’t help anyone. At times, you would think that playing favorites would help the person who is indeed the favorite, but all it really does end up building resentment. After all, no one likes to feel like they are not valued as highly as others, and they tend to take that out on the one who is the favorite.
Biblically speaking, playing favorites doesn’t work out too well either.
The ideal Christian life is to follow God and to try to imitate what God would do. Obviously, we are fallen humans, so it is impossible to be a perfect replication, but we should aspire to this goal.
Rom 2:8 But unto them that are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, indignation and wrath,
Rom 2:9 Tribulation and anguish, upon every soul of man that doeth evil, of the Jew first, and also of the Gentile;
Rom 2:10 But glory, honour, and peace, to every man that worketh good, to the Jew first, and also to the Gentile:
Rom 2:11 For there is no respect of persons with God.
Basically, in KJV speak, God does not play favorites. He doesn’t change his judgment based on who you are. Also, He doesn’t change what you will receive if you “worketh good.”
Of course, if God did play favorites, He would lose one of His characteristics, and that is impossible. We know that God is just, and justice treats everyone fairly.
Rev 15:3 And they sing the song of Moses the servant of God, and the song of the Lamb, saying, Great and marvellous are thy works, Lord God Almighty; just and true are thy ways, thou King of saints.
We definitely should try to aspire to the highest standard of justice in our lives. Naturally, there are people that we will get along better with than others, but we need to be careful that we are fair to everyone.
If two people mess up and we need to correct them, we should treat them the same way, and similarly, if two people deserve recognition, we should treat them the same way.
It is definitely hard to do, but as we can learn from the story of Joseph, playing favorites only builds up hard feelings that really don’t help anyone whatsoever.